What I Would Say To My 20-Year Old Self?

What I Would Say To My 20-Year Old Self?

Now obviously this won’t work if you’re younger than twenty (although feel free to change the age to suit), but what would you advise yourself if you could go back in time? What mistakes, errors, decisions and more would you change if given the chance? Would you change at all?
I read the question some time ago in a magazine and pinned it down to think about it. What would I advise and would I do it at all? Was my life exactly like I wanted it to be so far or were there major mistakes, times I regret totally?
If I'm honest it wasn't always like I wished it would have been - I don't know if there are really persons who could say everything was perfect at any time. But on the other hand, even if there were times I never wish back, they made me the person I am today. Don't we have to make mistakes to discover ourselves? I think we have to as otherwise we would never be able to judge for ourselves what's right and what's wrong. Learning never was easy, so why should growing up be?
If it comes to every single emotional experience it was important to live it and feel it, even if it was painfully sometimes.
But what about style and fashion? In this case I would say to my 20-Year old self not to try out curly short hair, never cut it too short as you will regret it for sure. These fat heels were never nice even if people want to tell you this right now, don't buy them! Ah, and nobody needs a fake diamond on a front tooth, it may be hip for some but you just ruin your tooth.
And what about drinks and food? Here I would have also a few recommendations. Never have too much Ouzo, believe me, you can't stand it and will end up drinking liters of plain water as if you crossed the desert. On the other hand you are always staying away from cinnamon, this doesn't make sense as it will take just a few more years until you will love it, so why not to give the yummy taste a try right now?
As you see, I may be able to recommend and give some hints and tips but only about kind of unimportant things in life. If it comes to the seriously important experiences, we all have to go through them on our own and I would rather regret to beware my 20-Year old self of one of them than giving her the back up that everything will be all right in the end.
The 35-Year old can assure to the 20-Year old that the next fifteen years won't be all fun and easy going but they are worth it to move forward and stand up whenever you feel that you were knocked down by life.

Good luck and cheers from Miss Faith

Stopover of lives

Stopover of lives

How many ways of life did we encounter?
There are always "stopovers" of lives, paths crossing, staying for a while. Some are fading slowly, some are ending abruptly.
I recently thought about how many lives crossed mine already and how many I even remember. There were many but did they all left footprints which matter? No, as this is the circle of life. Sure there were a few not only leaving footprints, better to say that they left scars, wounds, life lessons learned and different marks. These were the ones really counting for what I am today. But there were also the others, short insignificant by chance encounters. They didn't hurt or let me stumble and fall. Most of them were funny or just nonsense, days or a few weeks where I experienced something in my life which wasn't directly connected to the persons I met.
Do we sometimes interpret too much into something which is quickly forgotten once its gone? I would say so as I honestly don't even remember some names. These were the stopovers that matter in a certain way for me maybe but not in a significant way. I feel confident that I remember names and places and times for all the important stopovers, the others may leave emotions, stories or a gain in experience but they will never be the stories you tell your grandchildren.
Most important are the current paths, the precious ones which you want to stay for a lifetime.
They are worth it to work on, to put efforts in and to cherish and value. But carefully, not all recognize them in the same way you do. Try your best to ensure that they are what you feel and that both parties are honestly caring for a lifetime stay. If not, believe me, they are not worth of existing in your life. Letting go is one of the hardest things in life but it will free your soul once you were able to decide for yourself. Sometimes we realize it months or years later but as long as we see it one day it wasn't wrong. These are the so-called lessons learned in life and also the way of exploring the sense of stopovers. Every path has a sense, positive as well as negative, and we should learn decide for ourselves what's wrong or right. We only have this one life, so live it to the fullest, don't regret, try your best to give it the sense it deserves!
Faithfully, yours Miss Faith